One possible reason is that degrading language is considered taboo and therefore activates the brain’s fear responses in the amygdala—which also controls excitement and pleasure. “Another part of the explanation is that wanting to be called demeaning names is a form of masochism—the act of deriving pleasure from pain,” Lehmiller explains. Congrats, you’ve made it to the end of this dirty talk lesson and passed with flying colors.
How to Get Better at Dirty Talk
Want to share a fantasy about living on a deserted island where there are only the two of you? Or, want to pretend that a party is winding down and there are only a few of you left and things get more playful? “Because sexy talk can be about fantasy, it can offer people a way to play in a certain domain without wanting to, or being able to, engage in those behaviors,” says Gowan. But if the timing does feel right, dirty talk is a great way to increase both your emotional and physical connection.
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After all, experts say erotic banter enhances sex for both speaker and listener. And the fact that some have coined terms like lalochezia (using vulgar language to relieve tension) and laliophilia (arousal from public speaking) suggests there’s something to this sex-and-speech link. So why the embarrassment over sexually explicit words being whispered in my ear during sex?
- “It’s not only okay if there’s laughter during sex, it’s great,” says Harris. “Sex should be playful.
- They also like to discuss the sexual acts that might come next, as a lead-up to them.
- Test the waters.If you aren’t sure that your partner will be into dirty talk, try it once or twice casually during sex to see what their response is—you might be surprised.
- You can also try texting as a less direct approach to ease into dirty talk, gradually increasing your comfort level.
- Dirty talk gives people permission to surrender to their deepest, darkest, wildest fantasies.
Here’s how to talk dirty during sex, plus sexy things to say to your partner outside the bedroom to build excitement. Ideally, you want to establish clear consent before the dirty talk or sexting has taken place. If you expect you may start hooking up soon, try asking the person you’re seeing how they feel about talking dirty in bed. You can even start by asking if they’ve explored dirty talk in the past — and how they felt about it — to gauge whether or not it’s something you’d like to explore together. There’s something hot about talking dirty with a partner, whether you’re sending them a naughty text during the workday or whispering something seductive while doing the deed. But if expressing yourself through words isn’t necessarily your thing, spicing up your language can seem intimidating.
You might whisper something in your partner’s ear in the morning and then send risqué text messages as the day goes on; as the anticipation builds, you can get progressively more suggestive. If you’re the one who feels awkward or cringes at the idea of talking dirty yourself, but you find it hot when others do it, know that learning some tips for exactly how to talk dirty can help. “That discomfort may just be a reflection of the fact that you lack experience saying things aloud, without a filter, or intentionally to titillate a partner,” says LGBTQ+ expert and counselor Kryss Shane, LMSW. Yes, dirty talk can be a healthy addition to many relationships. It can enhance intimacy, increase sexual satisfaction, and open new channels of communication between partners. However, discussing boundaries and consent is crucial to ensuring both partners are comfortable and enjoy the experience.
Research shows that people who are more comfortable talking about sex in their everyday lives have more satisfying sex lives. If you never talk about sex, it’s not necessarily going to be any easier getting chatty in bed, so don’t shy away from talking about it with your partner at other times. Some of the best forms of dirty talking really aren’t that dirty at all. Dirty talking should make both yourself and your partner feel good about each other and your bodies, and there’s a slight misconception that dirty talking has to be extremely vulgar or hardcore. “But I can use language to describe what I love about how they feel in my arms, the way they smell, the experience of them tasting me.”